diff --git a/net/mptcp/protocol.c b/net/mptcp/protocol.c
index c8675d2eb5b9..34dd0e278a82 100644
--- a/net/mptcp/protocol.c
+++ b/net/mptcp/protocol.c
@@ -1263,11 +1263,14 @@ static void mptcp_close(struct sock *sk, long timeout)
 
 	lock_sock(sk);
 
-	mptcp_token_destroy(msk->token);
 	inet_sk_state_store(sk, TCP_CLOSE);
 
-	__mptcp_flush_join_list(msk);
-
+	/* be sure to always acquire the join list lock, to sync vs
+	 * mptcp_finish_join().
+	 */
+	spin_lock_bh(&msk->join_list_lock);
+	list_splice_tail_init(&msk->join_list, &msk->conn_list);
+	spin_unlock_bh(&msk->join_list_lock);
 	list_splice_init(&msk->conn_list, &conn_list);
 
 	data_fin_tx_seq = msk->write_seq;
@@ -1457,6 +1460,7 @@ static void mptcp_destroy(struct sock *sk)
 {
 	struct mptcp_sock *msk = mptcp_sk(sk);
 
+	mptcp_token_destroy(msk->token);
 	if (msk->cached_ext)
 		__skb_ext_put(msk->cached_ext);
 
@@ -1623,22 +1627,30 @@ bool mptcp_finish_join(struct sock *sk)
 	if (!msk->pm.server_side)
 		return true;
 
-	/* passive connection, attach to msk socket */
+	if (!mptcp_pm_allow_new_subflow(msk))
+		return false;
+
+	/* active connections are already on conn_list, and we can't acquire
+	 * msk lock here.
+	 * use the join list lock as synchronization point and double-check
+	 * msk status to avoid racing with mptcp_close()
+	 */
+	spin_lock_bh(&msk->join_list_lock);
+	ret = inet_sk_state_load(parent) == TCP_ESTABLISHED;
+	if (ret && !WARN_ON_ONCE(!list_empty(&subflow->node)))
+		list_add_tail(&subflow->node, &msk->join_list);
+	spin_unlock_bh(&msk->join_list_lock);
+	if (!ret)
+		return false;
+
+	/* attach to msk socket only after we are sure he will deal with us
+	 * at close time
+	 */
 	parent_sock = READ_ONCE(parent->sk_socket);
 	if (parent_sock && !sk->sk_socket)
 		mptcp_sock_graft(sk, parent_sock);
-
-	ret = mptcp_pm_allow_new_subflow(msk);
-	if (ret) {
-		subflow->map_seq = msk->ack_seq;
-
-		/* active connections are already on conn_list */
-		spin_lock_bh(&msk->join_list_lock);
-		if (!WARN_ON_ONCE(!list_empty(&subflow->node)))
-			list_add_tail(&subflow->node, &msk->join_list);
-		spin_unlock_bh(&msk->join_list_lock);
-	}
-	return ret;
+	subflow->map_seq = msk->ack_seq;
+	return true;
 }
 
 bool mptcp_sk_is_subflow(const struct sock *sk)
@@ -1712,6 +1724,14 @@ static int mptcp_stream_connect(struct socket *sock, struct sockaddr *uaddr,
 	int err;
 
 	lock_sock(sock->sk);
+	if (sock->state != SS_UNCONNECTED && msk->subflow) {
+		/* pending connection or invalid state, let existing subflow
+		 * cope with that
+		 */
+		ssock = msk->subflow;
+		goto do_connect;
+	}
+
 	ssock = __mptcp_socket_create(msk, TCP_SYN_SENT);
 	if (IS_ERR(ssock)) {
 		err = PTR_ERR(ssock);
@@ -1726,9 +1746,17 @@ static int mptcp_stream_connect(struct socket *sock, struct sockaddr *uaddr,
 		mptcp_subflow_ctx(ssock->sk)->request_mptcp = 0;
 #endif
 
+do_connect:
 	err = ssock->ops->connect(ssock, uaddr, addr_len, flags);
-	inet_sk_state_store(sock->sk, inet_sk_state_load(ssock->sk));
-	mptcp_copy_inaddrs(sock->sk, ssock->sk);
+	sock->state = ssock->state;
+
+	/* on successful connect, the msk state will be moved to established by
+	 * subflow_finish_connect()
+	 */
+	if (!err || err == EINPROGRESS)
+		mptcp_copy_inaddrs(sock->sk, ssock->sk);
+	else
+		inet_sk_state_store(sock->sk, inet_sk_state_load(ssock->sk));
 
 unlock:
 	release_sock(sock->sk);